Deveraux

Thinking about Deveraux when I woke up this morning. 

She loves things that are put together, making herself

comfortable and taking the time to have a pretty presentation,

or the right pillow and blanket on her corner of the couch.

(all her creations)

 

She will take that time to set up her area for rest.

Or she will get the best container for water with lots of ice. 

The other day I scolded her for being "diva like," for

always taking the best thing.

 

Sometimes that is true.  But I think there is another side to it.

That other side is a mark of her personality. 

She thinks of those things and wants to

take the time to make it right or good, or excellent.

Its important to her even if it takes more time.

I realize also that she likes things that tell a story.

 

She put a pillow in the swing for Cambria the other day.

Something I may not have thought about.

I want to acknowledge that part of her, celebrating that is

what makes her unique. 

It's a reminder that she is a separate being. 

 

 

We raise our kids thinking they will be so much like us and in

many ways they are and in many ways they are not.

 

It's our job as a parent to let them be who they are in their

areas, those place in their God given personalities. 

Then this shows us something.  It also says to me

she is very much her own person.  And it tells us

our way is not the only or right way. 

Sometimes I am "quick and dirty" when I get stuff done.

Or I don't always take the time...some of that is just being a mom.

But through that filter it would be easy for me to me

critical of her or to see her as being selfish.

So do I allow my daughter of ten to show me something?

To teach me?

I love this girl and I want to embrace and call forth

all the good in her.  I know I expect a lot from her and

I need to be on my knees before God making sure

my expectation, corrections, and hopes for her are balanced

with letting her know she is enough.

She has my heart in so many ways.

I embrace you my Dev. 

 

(side note...Deveraux said she saw herself in the mirror and took

her hair down, it was curly, and saw herself in the mirror and

thought she looked like me."...could I ask for a better compliment

from my daughter???